Your reasons for staying in your marriage may have changed as years passed. Perhaps at first you remained married because your children were young. Maybe you soon realized you could not survive financially if you left your spouse. Now, perhaps, you stay because you are reluctant to leave after investing so many years in the relationship.
Maybe there is a chance you can work to improve your marriage, or maybe the time is right to take the leap of faith and break away on your own. How do you know what is the right thing to do? Where do you even begin to make such a life-changing decision?
Are you seeing the signs?
As with any difficult decision, it is best to reach a place where you are calm and able to think clearly. If you are feeling panicked or as if your life is out of control, you may not be in a state of mind to make any important decisions. Some marriage counselors suggest taking time away, even for just a day or two, to allow yourself some peace to consider your options.
The main question you will be asking yourself is whether it is better for you to remain married or to divorce. You will have to weigh the pros and cons of each choice and think through the ramifications of each. It may help to obtain some legal advice so you have a full understanding of what lies ahead. Meanwhile, some of the common factors that lead to a decision to divorce include the following:
- You feel your marriage has drained you of hope, patience and other positive virtues.
- You no longer have the energy or desire to participate in the partnership.
- Your partner abuses you or treats you with indifference.
- You feel similar indifference toward your spouse.
- You and your spouse no longer share any physical or emotional intimacy.
- Your spouse has an addiction or extra-marital affair he or she is not willing to give up.
Any of these factors can signal the end of a marriage. Even if you realize it is best to end your marriage, there is still the chance that the divorce can be civil and stress-free. Options exist that can help you avoid a contentious litigation. The help of a compassionate and skilled Colorado attorney can improve the chances of meeting your goals through property division, custody and other matters you and your spouse will need to resolve.