Parenting can be challenging after a divorce, but it is important for parents in Colorado and throughout the country to put their needs second and focus on what is best for the children. This means not putting them in the middle of arguments or other disputes that the adults are involved in. If a child mentions something that the other parent has said, it may be time for a conversation with that person. Ideally, this conversation will take place at a neutral location where the child is not present.
While consistency is key for children, parents shouldn't feel forced to have the exact same parenting style as their ex. For instance, a parent shouldn't force a child to do homework at a set time just because the other parent prefers it that way. As a general rule, parents should allow for differences in parenting style as long as those differences don't put the child in danger.
Parents should ensure that their children have relationships with grandparents and other extended family members. This is true whether they are on that parent's side of the family or are directly related to the other parent. Generally speaking, children benefit when they are allowed to have relationships with as many family members as possible after a divorce.
Parents may be given joint custody of their children, but that is not something that can be guaranteed in a given case. Parents who believe that they are entitled to additional custody or visitation rights may want to consult with an attorney. This may also be helpful if a former spouse is making it difficult to see the kids as per the terms of a parenting plan or court order. If necessary, the order may be modified by a judge.